Consistently linked to Hollywood’s finest bachelors, it’s easy to forget Olivia Wilde’s only been single for a couple months.
The “Cowboys and Aliens” star, 27, finalized her divorce from her husband of eight years, Tao Ruspoli, last March, and in the August issue of Marie Claire she revealed it’s been hard to leave that life behind.
“The trauma of the [divorce] has been humbling,” she told the magazine. “And for the first time, I’m a little wobbly. I’m a case of arrested development, in a way — from spending your 20s with someone who really loves to take care of you, as my husband did.”
“But I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone,” added the actress, who has recently been linked to Ryan Gosling, Jake Gyllenhaal and Chris Pine. “You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”
And though she still considers Ruspoli family, Wilde says it was clear their marriage was headed in the wrong direction.
“When the relationship becomes about working to make it work, it’s lost that beauty and that optimistic bohemian sense that brought us together,” she reflected.
“I kept saying, ‘I failed!’ Admitting that I’m not perfect was a wonderful thing that came out of this,” she said. “There’s this fear that everyone is going to be disappointed in you, but I’m human. I don’t live up to any sort of ideal.”
And she added, “Even though it didn’t work, there’s nothing I regret about any of it.”
On her own for the first time in eight years, Wilde said she’s having to learn the rules of the dating world all over again. “It’s funny — my friends would always come to me for romantic advice, [but] I know nothing. Things have changed since I was dating in high school!”
“[But] I’m really tyring hard to spend this time working on myself,” she added.
And Wilde doesn’t just have her sights set on self improvement; she wants to see bigger changes, too.
“I’d like to refocus everyone’s attention away from the Kardashians and onto Doctors Without Borders or aid workers,” she revealed. “Let’s redefine scandal. Scandal is not who so-and-so is dating; scandal is the fact that 1.2 million people are still living in tents in Haiti.”
“If the average 15-year-old girl was hearing about that instead of so-and-so’s plastic surgery or cheating in Hollywood,” she said, “I’d feel better about our future.”